How to Have the Perfect Proposal?

You only propose once (hopefully), so let’s not fumble it.

Love deserves intention, not chaos.

A proposal is one of those rare moments, hopefully a once-in-a-lifetime event you’ll forever

remember: retold at dinner parties, replayed in daydreams, and inevitably documented on

someone’s phone. At the end of the day, whether your proposal is big or small, it all comes

down to thoughtfulness and knowing your partner better than anyone else in the world.

I wanted to share a few thoughts and pieces of advice on how to make this a truly special day

for you and your partner.

First things first…

Make It About Them

Have you ever heard the saying,

“Love your partner how they want to be loved, not how you

want to be loved”? This most definitely applies to your proposal. Some people have dreamed

about this day since they were five; others haven’t given it a second thought.

Ask yourself: Are they a private or public person? Spontaneous or sentimental? The best

proposals feel deeply personal, not borrowed from the internet.

Pro tip: If it wouldn’t make sense as a birthday plan for them, rethink it.

Don’t Propose Under Pressure

Nothing kills romance faster than an audience they didn’t ask for.

This goes back to knowing whether your partner is private or public. Public proposals can be

magical, the crowd cheering, the adrenaline, the celebratory kiss to seal the deal, but that magic

only exists if you know, without a doubt, that they’ll love it. Otherwise, it risks feeling like an

obligation instead of a moment.

Plan the Details

Effort is sexy and romantic. Chaos is not.

Location, timing, and what you’re going to say all matter. While you don’t need a 40-page run of

show, you’ll thank yourself for having some sort of plan. Preparation allows you to be fully

present in the moment.And while clammy hands and a racing heartbeat may be unavoidable, you can at least remind

yourself: Just follow the plan.

Don’t Propose at Someone Else’s Event

While certain events may bring out the love bug, don’t let it bite you in the butt.

It might feel romantic in the moment, but it creates far too much room for awkward energy. This

is your story, don’t make it a fleeting moment in someone else’s.

Think About What Comes Next

Saying “yes” is just the beginning.

Try to have a plan for after the proposal—dinner, a surprise celebration, or even a quiet,

romantic evening together. It shows intention and makes the day feel complete.

Final Thought

It doesn’t matter how extravagant your proposal is, it matters how right it feels. When your

partner feels seen, understood, and deeply loved, you’ve done it perfectly. I wish you luck on

your proposal journey. You can do this

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